The Difference

The difference between a transwoman and woman is a transwoman wants a vagina, a real woman lives with one. A transwoman will be a woman living with one, something a real woman already knows from birth, and that difference between disappears as the transwoman lives with hers and simply is a woman.

What Escapes Me

What escapes is reading life stories about female-to-male transmen. I can understand male-to-female transwomen wanting to transition to be physically and legally women as much as possible. I just can't seem to understand why a woman would want to become a man, to lose the very things transwomen wished they were born with.

It's really the same story, just told in reverse, so why is it so hard to understand? But then there's a lot that escapes me about human nature, even understanding my own.

An Impression

Why do I get the impression that some of the worst people are the transphobic, lesbian, radical feminist? Reading their posts and essay you get the impression they hate everyone, even women, except of course, some lesbians.

They argue anyone who talks against them is spouting hate speech but their words, equally hateful and offensive in tenor and tone, isn't? They assume eveyone else, meaning all men and straight women, hate them because they're lesbians.

They assume transwomen with vaginas aren't women because to them, only a "natural" vagina counts for being female and a woman, fogetting the wide variety of women's vagina and those who are intersexed or have reproductive system abnormalities.

They just hate. Or at least one gets the impression from their words.

Sorry No

Monica Roberts, an out and proud transwoman, wrote in a recent column essentially not asking but almost demanding transwomen, "... need to be out, proud and claiming their rightful place in the beautiful mosaic of human life. We need to be and are demanding our human rights be respected and protected in the laws of the countries we reside in. We are demanding respect for our humanity from friend, foe and frenemy."

Sorry Ms. Robert, no they shouldn't be out if they so choose and want to remain private to protect themselves from public scurtiny and verbal, if not physical, attacks. No one in the transcommunity, who have always argued all transpeople be "out and proud", have the right to dictate how any other transperson lives their life.

It's the right of each transperson, because when almost all transpeople, mostly transwomen, finish their transition they think of themselves or live their lives as transgender, only male or female, and no one, not anyone in the transcommunity, has the right to claim and label them as "trans..."

As much I might agree with Ms. Roberts transpeople need respect, protection and rights, I disagree with how it's done. I also know that once someone transitions (legal documents), they're protected by the Civil Rights Act (laws) for their sex, simply as men and women, not trans-anything, something either missed or overlooked by the transcommunity.

So, no Ms. Roberts, keep your advice to yourself and leave all the other transwomen to themselves. They don't tell you how to live your life, so you don't have the right to tell them. The vast majority of post-transition women are to some measure stealth and they deserve the right to stay there if they choose.

Three Types

There are three types of "transgender" women, those who wish they were born female, those who wish to be female and those who like to pretend to be female. The first two are the ones who transition if they can and the last are not transgender but simply crossdressers.

Who's not included in that description are those who are either genderqueer or androgynous, who are comfortable being themselves in whatever clothes or roles which suits them, and don't prescribe to any flavor of distinct gender, even transgender.