The almost always certain rule about transitions:
At some point in a transition the woman stops thinking of herself as transitioning and describing herself as trans-something and simply thinks and feels of herself as a woman. And at that point, she starts her life over and everything before is forgotten.
At that point she erases everything she did to identify as trans-something and just lives her life as a real honest person and woman. It almost always happens, and it's why they disappear in the society as any other ordinary woman.
Only those who are openly out or public about their trans-something history can't erase it and they're stuck with the stupid little adjective the rest of their life, that "transgender" woman. All the rest just get on with the life without it.
And so it should be, but don't leave those who were your friends during your transition behind to wonder why you left them without a word. They were there for you then and they can still be there for you now.
Monday, July 15, 2013
Give Thanks
For all those women transitioning and happy when they get to start Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) and get the effects and results of HRT, give thanks you can take the drugs, for there are some who want to transition as much, if not more, than you and can't tolerate HRT without serious adverse side effects.
Give thanks you get the changes which are often miraculous over months and especially years, for those who can't take HRT can't get the changes to make their transition better and easier. Give thanks you can and be accepting of those who can't.
Give thanks you can smile as your body changes from male to female as best that HRT can accomplish, for there are those who can't smile because they can't get and won't get the changes to make their transition better and easier.
Give thanks. You can change. Some can't give thanks. Some can't change.
Give thanks you get the changes which are often miraculous over months and especially years, for those who can't take HRT can't get the changes to make their transition better and easier. Give thanks you can and be accepting of those who can't.
Give thanks you can smile as your body changes from male to female as best that HRT can accomplish, for there are those who can't smile because they can't get and won't get the changes to make their transition better and easier.
Give thanks. You can change. Some can't give thanks. Some can't change.
Saturday, June 22, 2013
Stop Talking
Can gay men stop talking about transgender issues? Really, I mean really, because they almost always screw it up to say that "transgender people need to learn...", "transgender people need time...", and so on down the shit list of subtle, covert transphobic comments.
I listened to Huffington Post's commentary on the case before the Maine Supreme Court brought by the parents of a transgender student to access the girls bathroom after she was using it but then the school administrators said no but offered her a bad alternative.
The commentary between the two men, assuming one or both were gay (ok, just observing and they were LGB advocate, activists, or journalists), was just full of the same talk straights told LGB people decades ago when they fought for their right, "It's just not the time, be patient."
Yeah, right. The same shit LGB people have been telling transgender people for over a decade now fighting for their rights but not getting support from LGB people but being held to support LGB issues and people.
It's why transpeople created their own groups and organizations to fight for their own rights and forget support from LGB organizations unless they want to help fight for transgender people's rights and protections, which includes bathroom issues.
LGB people don't have the same bathroom issues as transgender people and especially children and teens. Yes, both get bullied but for different reasons, but still being LGB means you don't have to get into the bathroom you want than the one they demand you use.
Anyway, that's my rant against these two men who wasted my time any journalist or activist could say, but from the gay part of the Huffington Post, it's absurb on their part to assume and talk like they know. They don't, so stop talking as if you do.
Get a transgender activist to talk.
I listened to Huffington Post's commentary on the case before the Maine Supreme Court brought by the parents of a transgender student to access the girls bathroom after she was using it but then the school administrators said no but offered her a bad alternative.
The commentary between the two men, assuming one or both were gay (ok, just observing and they were LGB advocate, activists, or journalists), was just full of the same talk straights told LGB people decades ago when they fought for their right, "It's just not the time, be patient."
Yeah, right. The same shit LGB people have been telling transgender people for over a decade now fighting for their rights but not getting support from LGB people but being held to support LGB issues and people.
It's why transpeople created their own groups and organizations to fight for their own rights and forget support from LGB organizations unless they want to help fight for transgender people's rights and protections, which includes bathroom issues.
LGB people don't have the same bathroom issues as transgender people and especially children and teens. Yes, both get bullied but for different reasons, but still being LGB means you don't have to get into the bathroom you want than the one they demand you use.
Anyway, that's my rant against these two men who wasted my time any journalist or activist could say, but from the gay part of the Huffington Post, it's absurb on their part to assume and talk like they know. They don't, so stop talking as if you do.
Get a transgender activist to talk.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Why
If, as the LGB community has been asserting to overturn anti-homosexual laws, that being gay or lesbian is who you are and not who you decide or choose to be, then why don't LGB people understand that being transgender, meaning those whose mind is a gender different than their birth sex, is who they are and not who they decide or choose to be?
What don't they want to recognize that transpeople are the same as gays and lesbians in the innate sense of who they are as a person, just like straight people and cisgender people. They're all just people of different flavors, so why do gays, lesbians and radical feminists hate transpeople for just being themselves?
Yeah, rhetorical question asked too often and never really answered, let alone resolved.
What don't they want to recognize that transpeople are the same as gays and lesbians in the innate sense of who they are as a person, just like straight people and cisgender people. They're all just people of different flavors, so why do gays, lesbians and radical feminists hate transpeople for just being themselves?
Yeah, rhetorical question asked too often and never really answered, let alone resolved.
Saturday, June 8, 2013
What I Hate
What I hate is the LGB community activists, journalists, bloggers, etal using LGBT acronym but then only mentioning transpeople in passing as part of the larger community, issue, policy, etc. but never addressing the transgender issue in their writing, talks, videos, etc.
This has long been the practice going back decades, even a generation, where it was easy to require their support for LGB issues but then deny support to them for their issues which don't necessarily relate to the larger LGB issues.
This ranges from legal rights, healthcare, employment protections and rights, etc., anything that is pretty much unique to transgender people. The LGB community simply has ignored or excluded them in the discussion but then keep adding the T to the LGBT label.
This is blatant discrimination and what I hate about LGB people when they do this. If you can't be fully inclusive then don't include the name. It's the old adage, use it or lose it, but don't patronize it. It hurts real people and it hurts the gains transpeople need.
Support them or be honest enough to say you don't, but don't lie. That's why you're not liked or trusted.
This has long been the practice going back decades, even a generation, where it was easy to require their support for LGB issues but then deny support to them for their issues which don't necessarily relate to the larger LGB issues.
This ranges from legal rights, healthcare, employment protections and rights, etc., anything that is pretty much unique to transgender people. The LGB community simply has ignored or excluded them in the discussion but then keep adding the T to the LGBT label.
This is blatant discrimination and what I hate about LGB people when they do this. If you can't be fully inclusive then don't include the name. It's the old adage, use it or lose it, but don't patronize it. It hurts real people and it hurts the gains transpeople need.
Support them or be honest enough to say you don't, but don't lie. That's why you're not liked or trusted.
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