I saw the article about Grace Abrams, with her partner to be Australia's first same-sex couple winning the right to her passport recognizing her official sex. Gee, two seeemingly wonderful people in love, devoting their lives to one another, and getting on with their work and lives, together. Gee, that doesn't hurt so bad, now does it? So why all the flack about same-sex marriages?
This couple was legally married and still are, even after Grace changed her sex to match the gender she's always been in her mind. And their marriage after the change was upheld as legal. Even in the United States, this is not illegal or would it dissolve a marriage if one changes their sex to match their gender. You see, the laws only define who can get married, it doesn't define who can be married once they are married.
I realize Grace and Fiona don't really want to be a poster couple, but it seems to me that it's hard not to see them as one. For all the hype from the opponents to same-sex marriage, they just don't see the light of the day. Same-sex marriages aren't really different from other marriages. The whole argument for it is simply equal rights and protections, something our Constitution and laws provide to all Americans.
So, next time someone goes on and on about same-sex marriages, remind them of the statistics about domestic abuse, child molestation, incest, serial rapists and killers, most of which are committed by men in "normal" marriages. Ask them is that the kind of marriage they're suggesting is good and proper. Ask them about adultery, is that acceptable? Ask them about the number of secret gay men in marriages (eg. Senator Larry Craig).
How can they say all this issues are "normal" but two same-sex people in a marriage isn't? Then ask them about Grace and Fiona, is their marriage that bad for the sanctity of marriage? What does it actually hurt and who does it actually harm. It certainly doesn't hurt or harm anyone else or their marriage. Or are those people so afraid of diversity they'll ignore the facts and reality? Is Grace and Fiona a danger to them and the sanctity of marriage?
I don't think so, and I wish them well in their life together. I think it's cool.
