So It Goes

So it goes. While many in the transgender community promote gender diversity and the whole spectrum of gender expression and presentation, there are many who, while understanding and accepting the idea of the non-binary, like the binary.

There's nothing wrong with liking and living in the gender binary if it's makes you comforable with yourself and your life. That's your right, and it's not the right of the advocates of the non-binary to criticize, or worse, atack or demonize you.

There's nothing wrong with not identifying as a transgender woman or man and not wanting to be reconized, and especially not labelled, as a transgender woman or man. It's your right to self-identify as non-binary people advocate for themselves.

There's nothing wrong for both sides of the argument for gender identity and the use of the word transgender to exist without declaring war against the other. It's the right of everyone to choose who they are and how they want to be identified.

There's nothing wrong if both sides agree to just let everyone be themselves. And hopefully, to do it respectfully and without malice toward others. But that's not what is these days in the fight for inclusion where inclusion is everyone whether or not they want to be included, and more so want to be excluded.

So it goes these days. The whole transgender community at war within itself. You can't decide for yourself anymore. Others get to decide for you, decide who you are and how you should be called. And argue you can't disagree with them.

And the transgender community wonders why so many (transgender) people don't like them anymore, and don't participate in the community. They created the atmosphere and environment and encourage the fight, forgetting they're losing most of their own in the process.

So it goes. The many not caring, if even watching, and the few yelling at each other about who's right or wrong.

Really

Caitlyn Jenner did what every woman who has transitioned has done before her, is doing now and will do in the future, but very, very few of those women had the family support, money and resources to transition what then Bruce Jenner decided to do, become themself, Caitlyn in this case.

And the vast majority of those women, then, now and to be, have had to deal with the whole array of life's issues with a transition, from coming out to family and friends, and then to come out their employer and co-workers if they had a job, and then become public.

Many of those women faced the whole array of adversity, problems, even hate and violence, and often losing their job or their careers. They had to find the medical resources to go through the transition, facing humiliation and often discrimination, just to get into see doctors or therapists.

Many of those women had to find ways to transition with the money they had, and often with almost no money, to have to resort to work they find dehumanizing. Many had to extend their transition for years for the lack of funds.

Many of those women didn't have the ability to pass in public without looks, stares, or ridicule. Many women didn't have the funds and access to medical resources to get surgery to become passable, and those that do were strapped with significant debt just to get by in life without public humiliation or embarrassment.

And through all that very few got recognition for their courage. Yet Caitlyn gets an ESPY award for courage? Really for what? Doing what hundreds of thousands of woman have done before her, including some professional or amateur athletes.

I don't see she deserves anything more than what many women have already done, but then it only goes to show you what lengths celebrities will go to for publicity and fame. If anything Caitlyn shows, it's not courage, but selfishness for publicity.

And for that ESPN gave her the Arthur Ashe award for courage.