Why

Why is it that if you are transgender, especially in transition or more so post-transition, and you don't want to be recognized with the whole diversity of "transgender" people, meaning crossdressers, transvestities, drag queens/kings, etc. you're considered against transgender people, even transphobic?

It's a what the f..k thought on their part. There no reason everyone has to accept the whole of any group. It doesn't mean you dislike or even hate them, it's just you don't have the interest in their world and they're not a part of your life.

I ask the question from a column where a transwoman wrote about the responses she got from transpeople who disagreed about thinking transvestites and drag queens were transgender and should be accepted by all transpeople because they're part of the diversity.

Well, sorry, it's her opinion, just that and nothing more, and not worth more than anyone who disagrees with her and doesn't want to be associated with other groups under the transgender umbrella. And I can see why some disagree with her.

If you are a woman who is transitioning and especially has transitioned and just want to be invisible in the world of women, why would you want people to see you, or worse label you, transgender like transvestites and drag queens.

This woman's column was prompted by Gwyneth Paltrow's comment she sometimes overuses makeup where she looks like RuPaul and other drag queens. Yeah, RuPaul should know what that means and no doubt she said it in passing without malice toward anyone.

We all know, or common sense suggests, with drag queens and most transvestites, it's all about glamour and makeup. And we all know those people often complain and always criticize real transwomen for their lack of makeup and common everyday styles.

They're two entirely different groups of people with no overlap except the things common with women as a whole, clothes and makeup. Transvestites, drag queens, etal, don't transition and don't go through the mandatory medical proceedures to transition.

So why should people have to accept them as transgender? Especially since some of them don't see themselves as transgender. It's a personal choice and opinion, and certainly not mandated by the very people who think they should accept them.