No one wants to be transgender. Every transgender person would have loved to have been born in the sex they know they are in their mind that isn't in their body. Every transwoman would have loved to have been born female, raised as a girl, develop into a woman and lived her life as every woman knows.
No one wants to be transgender. In many ways it's one of the worst fates a person can be born, to know they will always be an outcast because of the conflict they know and almost everyone else will hate them, and even deny them their opportunity to change their body.
No one wants to be transgender. Even if they transition to become physically a woman and legally recognized as female, they will always know their past will never go away no matter how hard they try. They know there will always be moments when the truth is known.
No one wants to be transgender. Who would? If you don't believe it, then ask yourself if you were born with the body of the sex different than your mind, your gender identity, yourself. How would you feel? What would you do?
You see, it's really easy to see and understand. That's the simple truth.
Friday, September 20, 2013
Thursday, September 19, 2013
HRT
While Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) is one, and often considered the most, part of a transition, many transitioning people not only tolerate HRT, their body change significantly to even dramatically over months to years on it.
But some have issues if not problems with it as their body requires a very narrow range of hormone levels to work, meaning their estrogen levels can't go higher than their normal and their testosterone levels can't go much lower than their normal level.
If they change those levels outside the range, their body revolts from physical problems to mental problems, including excerbating some inherent problems, especially those prone to depression. This is true for estradoil in any form.
It's why some transitiong people have to find alternative routes, from surgeries to just living with what their body allows. So, don't judge someone who doesn't look like their transitioning and isn't on HRT, and don't tell them they're not real or serious about it because they're not on HRT.
They can't and you shouldn't.
But some have issues if not problems with it as their body requires a very narrow range of hormone levels to work, meaning their estrogen levels can't go higher than their normal and their testosterone levels can't go much lower than their normal level.
If they change those levels outside the range, their body revolts from physical problems to mental problems, including excerbating some inherent problems, especially those prone to depression. This is true for estradoil in any form.
It's why some transitiong people have to find alternative routes, from surgeries to just living with what their body allows. So, don't judge someone who doesn't look like their transitioning and isn't on HRT, and don't tell them they're not real or serious about it because they're not on HRT.
They can't and you shouldn't.
The Difference
When someone decides to transition, the hardest part is recognizing the difference between chasing a dream of themselves and the reality of their being. The former will almost assuredly lead to problems between what they want to become versus what they are becoming.
The latter, however, won't necessarily lead to complete happiness with themself, but it will lead to being comfortable with what the could have and did achieve with their transition, someone they can live with and be the rest of their life with no regrets.
The latter, however, won't necessarily lead to complete happiness with themself, but it will lead to being comfortable with what the could have and did achieve with their transition, someone they can live with and be the rest of their life with no regrets.
All I want
All I want is to be comfortable in and with my own body. You would think the medical community would jump at the chance to say ok, and do what's expected and necessary for that treatment which leads to a cure.
You would think. Some of them do. In fact most of them do. So why doesn't my insurance company? What don't they understand about a cure for a problem easily doable with a known treatment plan? And why hasn't the medical community demanded fair treatment by the health insurance?
They've "recommended" it. To date, however, the health insurance has never explained why they explicitly exclude the very treatment which is a cure, and they keep ignoring the medical community's advice. All for a condition easily and affordably treated.
You would think. Some of them do. In fact most of them do. So why doesn't my insurance company? What don't they understand about a cure for a problem easily doable with a known treatment plan? And why hasn't the medical community demanded fair treatment by the health insurance?
They've "recommended" it. To date, however, the health insurance has never explained why they explicitly exclude the very treatment which is a cure, and they keep ignoring the medical community's advice. All for a condition easily and affordably treated.
Surprising
It's surprising that some small change in a person's physical anatomy, the change, addition or removal of something, can make the greatest change in the mental health of a person, so they can say they are complete and whole.
You would think the medically community would quickly jump at this small treatment which cures so many problems of a person that all the therapy, medical intervention, or anything other treatment can't do. One simple thing.
So why do they put so many roadblocks to this one thing? It's not rocket science. It's not really medically confusing. A simple decision to say ok, and all the other issues and problems fade into their past and give them a future.
You would think. Surprising it's not.
You would think the medically community would quickly jump at this small treatment which cures so many problems of a person that all the therapy, medical intervention, or anything other treatment can't do. One simple thing.
So why do they put so many roadblocks to this one thing? It's not rocket science. It's not really medically confusing. A simple decision to say ok, and all the other issues and problems fade into their past and give them a future.
You would think. Surprising it's not.
Saturday, September 7, 2013
Why
Why would any woman who goes through her transition, surgeries to be physically female and legal documents changed to be legally recognized as female, and living as any other woman still identify as and call herself publically transgender?
That's what, not who, you were for describing a medical condition for the sake of others, but it's just a label you don't need and shouldn't want, not just following you when you get through and on with your life, but wearing like a lapel pin.
It's one thing to be a role model for women. It's another to have been known as a role model for transwomen when you were in transition and who you can be when you're through it as a woman, but not as an identity.
To say to everyone, "I am a woman. I am transgdender." You were transgender, not are transgender, but then some still see themselves as such, something I don't understand why.
That's what, not who, you were for describing a medical condition for the sake of others, but it's just a label you don't need and shouldn't want, not just following you when you get through and on with your life, but wearing like a lapel pin.
It's one thing to be a role model for women. It's another to have been known as a role model for transwomen when you were in transition and who you can be when you're through it as a woman, but not as an identity.
To say to everyone, "I am a woman. I am transgdender." You were transgender, not are transgender, but then some still see themselves as such, something I don't understand why.
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
Sometimes
Sometimes people transition not to become someone but to unbecome someone else. Sometimes people transition to female not necessarily because they want to embrace everything women have, do and are, but to get away from being everything men have, do and are, to become who they want to be, even if it's a boyish or androgynous woman.
It's about becoming someone they are comfortable being and being in their own skin and body. Sometimes it's not what's expected of them to be, which often creates it's own internal and external conflicts with the transcommunity and transpeople, especially transwomen who demand all are overtly women, but who and what they want to be.
That's where they live and are, something not often understood, let alone respected, by the transcommunity and other transwomen. Sometimes it's just about being human and nothing more or nothing else, wherever it lies on the gender continuum.
It's about becoming someone they are comfortable being and being in their own skin and body. Sometimes it's not what's expected of them to be, which often creates it's own internal and external conflicts with the transcommunity and transpeople, especially transwomen who demand all are overtly women, but who and what they want to be.
That's where they live and are, something not often understood, let alone respected, by the transcommunity and other transwomen. Sometimes it's just about being human and nothing more or nothing else, wherever it lies on the gender continuum.
The Law
I read the open letter by Heather McNamara to CNN to change the network's position to refer to Private Bradley Manning as the name, Chelsea, and gender, female, he prefers and has chosen to live by in prison. The other media networks have chosen to use Chelsea and female, even NPR reversed their recognition to this.
I personally don't care either way, but there is one thing all the people arguing for Private Manning to be accorded proper recognition. It's called the law. Transgender people may request people use their prefered name and gender but until they get their official name change and documents changed for their gender, they are their legal name and gender.
In that respect CNN is right and others wrong. The transcommunity needs to remember they don't have special rules for prisoners than citizens, and imply prisoners have special privileges not afforded citizens only shows the transcommunity's narrow focus on some people than the greater community of transgender people.
I won't argue Manning deserves some measure of recognition for coming out and speaking out, and the media can choose for themselves how they recognize him or her in their news stories, but the law doesn't change for Manning or the fact of being a prisoner.
Manning can't officially and formally be recognized until he complies with it, like all the rest of the transgender people going through their transition and have to follow the law for their name change and documents changed.
On that issue and matter, nothing changes for Manning or anyone else, so it's fair and reasonable to consider Manning by his past until it's changed to her future. Even the military knows that, but many in the transcommunity don't seem to know or know but don't care.
I personally don't care either way, but there is one thing all the people arguing for Private Manning to be accorded proper recognition. It's called the law. Transgender people may request people use their prefered name and gender but until they get their official name change and documents changed for their gender, they are their legal name and gender.
In that respect CNN is right and others wrong. The transcommunity needs to remember they don't have special rules for prisoners than citizens, and imply prisoners have special privileges not afforded citizens only shows the transcommunity's narrow focus on some people than the greater community of transgender people.
I won't argue Manning deserves some measure of recognition for coming out and speaking out, and the media can choose for themselves how they recognize him or her in their news stories, but the law doesn't change for Manning or the fact of being a prisoner.
Manning can't officially and formally be recognized until he complies with it, like all the rest of the transgender people going through their transition and have to follow the law for their name change and documents changed.
On that issue and matter, nothing changes for Manning or anyone else, so it's fair and reasonable to consider Manning by his past until it's changed to her future. Even the military knows that, but many in the transcommunity don't seem to know or know but don't care.
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