Words Over Content

As some of you may know of the recent events to "glitter bomb" Dan Savage for his transphobic remarks, namely his choice of words to describe transpeople. Note it's about transpeople, those who are in transition or have transitioned to be the gender of their mind and not their body. They're legally their new gender.

And while Dan has been verbally supportive of transpeople on occasion over the years, it's all the same rhetoric anyone would give about being understanding and accepting of transpeople and making them part of the human experience. But it's all just rhetoric from him and not much more as he has continued to use degrading and denigrating words to describe transpeople, making them just like drag queens and cross-dressers.

And while he has recognized the change in attitudes about his word, he has not changed his mouth to still use them, and all he has done is become politically correct to apologize and promise to do better, but he hasn't. And now the gay (men) community is standing up for him calling out transpeople and trans advocating not just those glitter bombiing him at events but more so against those calling Dan out as transphobic.

Well, the reality is that he probably is transphobic and just doesn't want to admit it. He's not that different from the vast majority of gay men who, deep in their hearts and minds, don't like, and even hate, transpeople. Yes, it's that pervasive and intense, they don't publically express it. It's what some have called the penis effect.

They don't like transowmen because they want and get a vagina like real women. They don't like transmen because they either don't get a penis to be a man (law doesn't require it to be legally male) or get a pseudo one from their own tissue or a implant (very expensive and risky). And worse, some stay internally female to become or be pregnant.

And so it's been their history to accept them as step-children of the greater LGBT community and movement but then as with all step-children, constantly deride and ridicule them publically to feel superior. The "I can be prick because I love my penis and you don't."

And Dan is one of those voices which the media and straight community adopted into the mainstream because he bashes and trashes groups and people they also hate, the transcommunity and transpeople. The truth is gay men, including Dan, think transwomen are always just "men in dresses", and should have stayed men to be transvestities or cross-dressers.

So he uses words to describe them which he says are "acceptable" to the younger generation. Except the younger, genderqueer, generation hate the same words he uses, because he includes them. So he and RuPual and the rest of them are simply what they criticized and fought to prevent others for calling them, you know the fag.." word, for calling transpeople similar hateful words. They are what they call others, their enemy.

And all the apologies doesn't help anymore because you haven't changed in your heart and mind. Disguising hate in new words is still hate. It's still from the same person who said it then and says it now. That doesn't change.