If a woman can be a dyke and even become a transman, what's the problem with a man being a transdyke? Why do all male-to-female transpeople have to be "normally overtly" feminine to transition? Why can a man just be the female version of himself as a woman?
Why do the therapists say that's unacceptable? If a man just wants to be the female version of himself, meaning with breast and a vagina but still the same person, even the same or women's version of his clothes, why is it so wrong?
Just a thought about the few who actually do transition through like this. Kinda' disrupts the gender theory and model don't they? And kinda' cool too, because it's about being comfortable with yourself and your life without having to conform to some arbitrary standard of being trans.
They're saying, "Fuck you."
Saturday, March 30, 2013
Monday, March 25, 2013
WTF
Really WTF applies to this question, why. When a transman, meaning a female born person who transitions to be relatively physically male having double radical mastectomy with other surgeries optional but legally male, the world, especially men, raise a toast to him.
The man can stand up and say he identifies as transgender, which would be obvious if he didn't have bottom surgery, and the media and everyone cheers him to be proud of who he is and identifies. Well, almost everyone, some in the lesbian community often have issues with transmen, but they rarely voice their views publically.
But when a transwoman, meaning male to female born person transition with the surgeries, the sex reassignment surgery and sometimes with facial cosmetic and breast augmentation surgeries, is outed, forced out, or chooses to come out, and decides to identify as transgender, something which escapes me why they do post-transition, then the media and people can't condemn and demean her enough.
There will be a few media sources and many in the LGBT community who praise her, but most don't and many do worse, including using offensive words and language. You can bet she is rarely treated nicely by any current or propective employer. And equally rarely do family members stay with them let alone by their side.
In short, transmen quickly assume and get male privilege but transwomen get shoved to the bottom of the social ladder, and all of them are lumped into lowest single catagory of human beings. This is old stuff I know but I get tired of reading editorials by out and proud transmen who earn praise while out and proud transwomen have to fight for it and rarely only get it if they pass as women and more so are model pretty.
Yeah, the transcommunity is getting full of model-pretty transwomen as spokeswomen who talk about being out and proud and demand not just other but all transwomen do likewise forgetting those women have lives, families and careers which they would risk losing if they came out.
That seems to be lost on the out and proud group, men or women, and it's the reason the vast majority of transwomen don't come out, don't identify as transgender and don't support the transcommunity outside of any private way they can.
Why the sudden rant on this I've written about before? Yeah, a column by an out and proud gay transman (seems many transmen change their sexual orientation from lesbian, butch women to gay transmen as some transwomen change from straight pretransition men to straight post-transition women) shouted how proud is he and that all transpeople should come out.
Then a news story about GLAAD's new mission transgender inclusive statement. Gee, that was quick of them after recognizing transmen and women for years but if you notice they only recognize accomplished or pretty transwomen? Sexism at its finest in the LGBT community?
Why are almost all the young out and proud transwomen model pretty? Like they represent the vast number of in and post-transition women? Like ordinary isn't good enough for the spotlight or cameras, to be on stage or sitting across from news anchors?
And they all wonder why the vast majority of transwomen and especially post-transition women are quietly living their lives and don't care about transcommunity outside of their own world. Gee, what a concept, ordinary life watching the model-pretty transwomen tell their story and express their view when it rarely approaches those of most transwomen.
What these women have done is set a standard the vast majority of transwomen can't achieve, even if they had all the opportunity and money, it's not who they are and what they can be, let alone what they want to be seen and identified as, transgender.
When you're model pretty no one questions your womanhood. When you're not model pretty, everyone questions your womanhood. But no one question a transman's manhood. Cis-sexism is alive and well in and out of the transcommunity. And yes, it's a WTF question of why.
The man can stand up and say he identifies as transgender, which would be obvious if he didn't have bottom surgery, and the media and everyone cheers him to be proud of who he is and identifies. Well, almost everyone, some in the lesbian community often have issues with transmen, but they rarely voice their views publically.
But when a transwoman, meaning male to female born person transition with the surgeries, the sex reassignment surgery and sometimes with facial cosmetic and breast augmentation surgeries, is outed, forced out, or chooses to come out, and decides to identify as transgender, something which escapes me why they do post-transition, then the media and people can't condemn and demean her enough.
There will be a few media sources and many in the LGBT community who praise her, but most don't and many do worse, including using offensive words and language. You can bet she is rarely treated nicely by any current or propective employer. And equally rarely do family members stay with them let alone by their side.
In short, transmen quickly assume and get male privilege but transwomen get shoved to the bottom of the social ladder, and all of them are lumped into lowest single catagory of human beings. This is old stuff I know but I get tired of reading editorials by out and proud transmen who earn praise while out and proud transwomen have to fight for it and rarely only get it if they pass as women and more so are model pretty.
Yeah, the transcommunity is getting full of model-pretty transwomen as spokeswomen who talk about being out and proud and demand not just other but all transwomen do likewise forgetting those women have lives, families and careers which they would risk losing if they came out.
That seems to be lost on the out and proud group, men or women, and it's the reason the vast majority of transwomen don't come out, don't identify as transgender and don't support the transcommunity outside of any private way they can.
Why the sudden rant on this I've written about before? Yeah, a column by an out and proud gay transman (seems many transmen change their sexual orientation from lesbian, butch women to gay transmen as some transwomen change from straight pretransition men to straight post-transition women) shouted how proud is he and that all transpeople should come out.
Then a news story about GLAAD's new mission transgender inclusive statement. Gee, that was quick of them after recognizing transmen and women for years but if you notice they only recognize accomplished or pretty transwomen? Sexism at its finest in the LGBT community?
Why are almost all the young out and proud transwomen model pretty? Like they represent the vast number of in and post-transition women? Like ordinary isn't good enough for the spotlight or cameras, to be on stage or sitting across from news anchors?
And they all wonder why the vast majority of transwomen and especially post-transition women are quietly living their lives and don't care about transcommunity outside of their own world. Gee, what a concept, ordinary life watching the model-pretty transwomen tell their story and express their view when it rarely approaches those of most transwomen.
What these women have done is set a standard the vast majority of transwomen can't achieve, even if they had all the opportunity and money, it's not who they are and what they can be, let alone what they want to be seen and identified as, transgender.
When you're model pretty no one questions your womanhood. When you're not model pretty, everyone questions your womanhood. But no one question a transman's manhood. Cis-sexism is alive and well in and out of the transcommunity. And yes, it's a WTF question of why.
Sunday, March 24, 2013
Something to Hide
The difference between a post-transition woman and an in-transition is that one has something to hide and the other has something to hide. One is what is expected and one isn't what is expected, but both don't want to share it except with their closest friends. It's a small difference and a big difference, but it's what makes the difference.
Tumblr Observation
A few dozen of those are transpeople and one thing is consistent with them, and that's there's are turnover of them, new ones but mostly discontinued ones, which if you watch them for awhile, the reasons are simple.
Their transition is over and they're legally female. They have nothing more to say about being trans.
They got a job and don't want their employer finding their Tumblr page about them and their tastes.
They got bullied into leaving by too many anonymous people asking offensive questions.
They simply got tired of talking about their life and expressing their views on trans issues.
Or they realized revealing themselves so much on a social media Website is really stupid.
And they disappear from Tumblr. I not only can't blame them, I agree with them and don't recommend any transperson posting so much, often with photos, about their life. Sharing is one thing, sharing with the whole world is another.
I subscribe to the view that any transperson should simply say when asked about their transition, "It's personal and private, and not open for public discussion." If you want to talk about trans issues, fine, be vocal, even outspoken.
Talk about anything else but not your life unless you want to become public transperons and a target, because I guarrantee there will be a time you wished you hadn't and you can't hide it or take it back, it's been reblogged.
Just my observation on Tumblr.
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Privilege
Occasionally I find and read an entry on a blog by a in-transition woman, sometimes a post-transition one which escapes me why a post-transition woman talks about anything trans or related to transpeople, about passing privilege.
And it's clear these women are almost if not completely female in appearance and voice if they have a YouTube channel. What bothers me is that they refute they have "passing privilege" and talk about how hard they've worked to be who they are to get through public life as women.
I don't doubt that and I think it's cool they are within the normal range of women for their body, face and voice. I do think, however, they're misguided to say it's not a privilege when there are so many transwomen who barely pass some of the time, if at all.
They say to passing is self-confidence, which I can't disagree, but there are limits when you're not immediately seen as a woman no matter how hard you try, even more than those above who do work hard and pass with relative ease.
And that's my point, it's not about how hard you work, it's about where you start. Being gifted to be more naturally passable as a woman goes far more and longer than if you don't pass. You can improve if you pass but you can't improve if you don't.
That's because the body, face and voice just isn't there to be passable, sometimes even with surgery. They can't win acceptance without being themselves and hope people are nice and kind or at least don't point them out or worse.
What the blogger I read doesn't realize, the privilege is about being invisible versus visible, or worse being obvious not a woman no matter how hard you try. Privilege is about being invisible even when you don't try because you can.
Maybe this blogger and others should try being visible or more so obvious not passing and see how it feels. Then talk about privilege.
And it's clear these women are almost if not completely female in appearance and voice if they have a YouTube channel. What bothers me is that they refute they have "passing privilege" and talk about how hard they've worked to be who they are to get through public life as women.
I don't doubt that and I think it's cool they are within the normal range of women for their body, face and voice. I do think, however, they're misguided to say it's not a privilege when there are so many transwomen who barely pass some of the time, if at all.
They say to passing is self-confidence, which I can't disagree, but there are limits when you're not immediately seen as a woman no matter how hard you try, even more than those above who do work hard and pass with relative ease.
And that's my point, it's not about how hard you work, it's about where you start. Being gifted to be more naturally passable as a woman goes far more and longer than if you don't pass. You can improve if you pass but you can't improve if you don't.
That's because the body, face and voice just isn't there to be passable, sometimes even with surgery. They can't win acceptance without being themselves and hope people are nice and kind or at least don't point them out or worse.
What the blogger I read doesn't realize, the privilege is about being invisible versus visible, or worse being obvious not a woman no matter how hard you try. Privilege is about being invisible even when you don't try because you can.
Maybe this blogger and others should try being visible or more so obvious not passing and see how it feels. Then talk about privilege.
Your Worst
What transwomen want is when they can dress in their worst clothes on their worst days and when they go somewhere, no one wonders, let alone asks, if they're a man or a woman. They're just another woman having a bad day.
Clothes
Transpeople just want to be accepted and comfortable in the clothes they want to wear, not what society says is acceptable for a given gender. Just comfortable with themselves as themselves expressed in their clothes.
Only other people have a problem with it they don't see let alone understand, and never consider letting people just be people. Transpeople don't impose their standards of clothes on others, so why do others impose their standards on transpeople?
After all, it's just clothes.
Only other people have a problem with it they don't see let alone understand, and never consider letting people just be people. Transpeople don't impose their standards of clothes on others, so why do others impose their standards on transpeople?
After all, it's just clothes.
Why
Why is it that cisgender women bitch that they don't understand transwomen and even verbally criticize, discriminate, and even abuse, them, but when you ask them one question, "If you woke up tomorrow with male gentalia, how would you feel and what would you do?", they understand?
Why don't they understand before they have to be asked the simple question?
Why don't they understand before they have to be asked the simple question?
Sick & Tired
I'm getting really, f..king sick and tired of the gay community, meaning gay men, talking about LGBT rights and protections, talking about community, talking about coming out, etc., and then solely focusing on being gay, not lesbian, let alone bisexual and totally forgetting transgender people.
The gay community wonders why people don't like them but still support the rights and protections of LGBT people, this is why, they're total a..holes at times to literally forget the rest of the LGBT community but then use the LGBT label.
I'd call it something else but people might get the wrong impression. I'm as straight as they come, one of those who support LGBT people, but only as a whole community and more importantly transpeople, because I know them and count them as friends.
Why the rant? I just got through listening to a news story about a politician who changed his view on gay marriage when his son came out gay. The journalist/anchor focused the entire story on "gays" meaning men, and never mentioning women or transpeople.
Really. And we're supposed to be impressed with his change of heart?
The gay community wonders why people don't like them but still support the rights and protections of LGBT people, this is why, they're total a..holes at times to literally forget the rest of the LGBT community but then use the LGBT label.
I'd call it something else but people might get the wrong impression. I'm as straight as they come, one of those who support LGBT people, but only as a whole community and more importantly transpeople, because I know them and count them as friends.
Why the rant? I just got through listening to a news story about a politician who changed his view on gay marriage when his son came out gay. The journalist/anchor focused the entire story on "gays" meaning men, and never mentioning women or transpeople.
Really. And we're supposed to be impressed with his change of heart?
Friday, March 8, 2013
Just Remember
Remember that not all transwomen who transition are on hormone replacement therapy, often considered the ticket to feminizing their bodies. Some people have problems with Spironolactone and estradiol which has adverse physical and mental side effects.
Spironolactone has a host of side effects as it's used for a variety of medical conditions beside transitioning transwomen, mostly causing increased urination with dehydration problems and decreased energy and muscle weakness.
Estradiol is also used for a variety of medical condition but mostly has the obvious effects of feminizing the body for transitioning transwomen. But it can cause or worsen depression, reduced energy and excerbate digestive conditions, such as bleeding intestines.
So, my point? Just remember that when they don't appear to what you would expect with their transition. Remember they hate it more than anyone as their body rebels against their mind, and their mind rebels against itself. And there is nothing they can do outside of surgery.
It's their reality.
Spironolactone has a host of side effects as it's used for a variety of medical conditions beside transitioning transwomen, mostly causing increased urination with dehydration problems and decreased energy and muscle weakness.
Estradiol is also used for a variety of medical condition but mostly has the obvious effects of feminizing the body for transitioning transwomen. But it can cause or worsen depression, reduced energy and excerbate digestive conditions, such as bleeding intestines.
So, my point? Just remember that when they don't appear to what you would expect with their transition. Remember they hate it more than anyone as their body rebels against their mind, and their mind rebels against itself. And there is nothing they can do outside of surgery.
It's their reality.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Sorry No
I don't often disagree with the many LGBT organizations, and especially the transgender organizations. They do good work on legal rights and protections for transitioning people, but they often take it to the extreme forgetting the overall context of transgender people in society and this country.
A case in point is Michelle Kosilek who brutally murdered his wife and was sentenced to life in prison without the possibility for parole. I won't argue the State of Massachusetts Department of Corrections (DOC) has mishandled his care when he decided to transition in prision.
They denied him the care to transition with respect to therapy, hormone drugs, and now surgery, which is where he's at now in his transition. I don't use the male pronoun to refer to a male-to-female transpeople but I will in this case because he's in a male prison still legally recognized as male.
The courts have ordered the DOC provide him with Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) to complete his transition and become physically and legally female. I don't have a problem with that so long as he pays the bill. An identical case in California has denied the right of an inmate to SRS paid by the State of Califonia.
The Kosilek case is no different. It's not surgery necessary to save the life of the inmate, or it is necessary surgery to ensure the inmate health in prison. And that's my argument against the organizations filing friend of the court briefs in support of Michelle Kosilek.
If they want to help people get SRS, then advocate for the health insurance companies to remove the exclusion for "sex transformation" treatment from their coverage and plans. Advocate for the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) to demand health insurance companies to likewise for federal employees and retirees.
If they want to help people get SRS, the advocate for companies to include this coverage in their employee plans. Advocate for young people in college to get the surgery through their respective college or university student health plans.
Advocate for all the free people who are at the same point in their transition who want and need the surgery who can go on and have productive lives as free people and not have the burden of living in between legal sexes while saving for the surgery.
But don't advocate for someone serving a life sentence who demands the taxpayers pay for it until you advocate for the rest of the people needing and deserving it. While all those people can't get help from all these same organizations, they're fighting for this one inmate but not fighting for the same thing for a California inmate?
Why is that? Michelle Kosilek will never leave prison. After surgery she will be reassigned to a women's prison. Does she expect to be better treated there? Really? Michelle will still be serving a life sentence, so exactly why would she need the surgery for that?
And what about all the free people needing and wanting the surgery? They don't count? They're less, even not, important than this one inmate? These organizations need to rethink their priorities. Michelle getting surgery won't help anyone else as the case won't translate to other people.
These organizations will waste their resources for what? One person who is serving a life sentence? Sorry, no. Michelle Kosilek killed his wife. He doesn't deserve more than just serving his sentence.
A case in point is Michelle Kosilek who brutally murdered his wife and was sentenced to life in prison without the possibility for parole. I won't argue the State of Massachusetts Department of Corrections (DOC) has mishandled his care when he decided to transition in prision.
They denied him the care to transition with respect to therapy, hormone drugs, and now surgery, which is where he's at now in his transition. I don't use the male pronoun to refer to a male-to-female transpeople but I will in this case because he's in a male prison still legally recognized as male.
The courts have ordered the DOC provide him with Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) to complete his transition and become physically and legally female. I don't have a problem with that so long as he pays the bill. An identical case in California has denied the right of an inmate to SRS paid by the State of Califonia.
The Kosilek case is no different. It's not surgery necessary to save the life of the inmate, or it is necessary surgery to ensure the inmate health in prison. And that's my argument against the organizations filing friend of the court briefs in support of Michelle Kosilek.
If they want to help people get SRS, then advocate for the health insurance companies to remove the exclusion for "sex transformation" treatment from their coverage and plans. Advocate for the Office of Personnel Management (OPM) to demand health insurance companies to likewise for federal employees and retirees.
If they want to help people get SRS, the advocate for companies to include this coverage in their employee plans. Advocate for young people in college to get the surgery through their respective college or university student health plans.
Advocate for all the free people who are at the same point in their transition who want and need the surgery who can go on and have productive lives as free people and not have the burden of living in between legal sexes while saving for the surgery.
But don't advocate for someone serving a life sentence who demands the taxpayers pay for it until you advocate for the rest of the people needing and deserving it. While all those people can't get help from all these same organizations, they're fighting for this one inmate but not fighting for the same thing for a California inmate?
Why is that? Michelle Kosilek will never leave prison. After surgery she will be reassigned to a women's prison. Does she expect to be better treated there? Really? Michelle will still be serving a life sentence, so exactly why would she need the surgery for that?
And what about all the free people needing and wanting the surgery? They don't count? They're less, even not, important than this one inmate? These organizations need to rethink their priorities. Michelle getting surgery won't help anyone else as the case won't translate to other people.
These organizations will waste their resources for what? One person who is serving a life sentence? Sorry, no. Michelle Kosilek killed his wife. He doesn't deserve more than just serving his sentence.
Wednesday, March 6, 2013
Being Normal
All a (trans)woman wants to feel and be is normal. Normal as is complete and whole as the person they've always known they are. Something everyone wants to feel and be normal with themselves. Why is it so hard for others to understand and more so accept? Don't we all want to be normal, if only by our own definition?
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