Why

Why are almost all the ones who say passing doesn't matter are the ones who pass almost all, if not all, the time?

Why are almost all the ones who say all transwomen should come out are those who are out, and even though they face discrimination, hate, and even violence, say it's good and healthy for you even if you don't pass?

Why don't they respect the rights and privacy of those who don't want to come out or don't pass, and know their life would be horribly changed if they came out or face overt discrimination if they went public?

No one choose to be born with sex-gender incongruity but they can choose how to live their life and find the best path to their own fulfillment. And it's not the right of anyone to tell them differently.