The Luck of Reality

The luck for any transwoman of any transition and their living relatively quietly stealth as women after the transition is the reality of their genes, meaning everything hinges on their ability to transition and pass. Yes, those words many in- and post-transition women argue aren't important. Well, only to the marginally to obviously non-passing ones.

Those who pass, do so and get on with their lives, where they walk away from the transcommunity. This point has been argued by some (mostly gay or transmen) but all anyone has to do is crunch the numbers of the number of SRS done for women in the US (here, Canada, and SE Asia) with the number of active or public post-transition women and you'll see there's a huge mismatch, an order of magnitude or more.

Anyway, that's wandering. My point is about the luck of our genes and the good or bad luck women transitioning have to get through their transition and have anything of a normal life as women without some or many problems being accepted, or maybe only silently accepted but then pretty much ignored to continue without notice.

Which is why some who only marginallly pass and those who don't pass most, if not almost all the time, are not just hesitant to come out and then go public. And why some don't even transition or become social hermits if they do.

And while all the people in the transcommunity argue they should come to because they'll have the support of the community, it's not that support they need. It's the acceptance of their family, their friends, their co-workers, and the public. If you don't pass there, then all the support from the transcommunity is useless.

It's why some, even later in life and especially older in life, get facial cosmetic surgery, for their own identity and for the ability to pass easier. It's why those who don't later in life and even older in life, not to be critical too much, don't pass without makeup.

A face of an ordinary woman without makeup, someone they see in the mirror as the woman they have always known themself to be, is often the life changing moment, just to be an ordinary looking woman without the fear of looks, stares, comments and words from others in public.

Sometimes it's what makes them whole, to lose who they saw everyday in the mirror, their old self, and to gain who they are, their new self. All the genes which defined their face can be overcome to a some, even a large, degree.

Then the mirror isn't their enemy and their life as the women they know and now see they are is ahead. The luck of genes and reality helps for transitioning women, they already see in the mirror everyday. The rest of transwomen have to mentally fight to see it, at least until they can change their face, overcome their genes and reality.