Transition Early

This entry is a thought into why you transition early in life. Yes, I know many couldn't and many still can't for a host of reasons from personal and professional to medical and financial, and for some it's the obviousness of their presence, or simply put, passing is so far from reality it's a dream they'll never see.

This is why you do it early in llife and don't worry about what happens. The truth is most kids do know who they are in early in their life, despite what parent think or want or despite what every adult wants to believe which isn't true. Some transgender kids know very their life, under 3, and some express it between about 6 and 8 years old.

And some aren't confused but are simply flexible about it, meaning they're in between, and while they know they're some to mostly a girl with a boy's body, or vice-versa, they're not for various reasons such as personality, temperament, etc., so insistent to express it all the time. They almost always do eventually from about age 10 to 12 if not later in their teens or twenties.

And some, which is what is often used to show kids don't know, aren't transgender and just love to play in the area in between and across defined gender boundaries. They love things which some adults think, or often feel, they're gay or worse in their mind transgender. They may be gay, they'll express it later, but it's not likely their transgender, only a few decide they are transgender later.

This is what confuses adults, not the children, just folks wanting the children to be something they're not, from specific expressions of themselves to just open to anything but certainly not, God forbid in their mind, gay or transgender. This is the group child psychologists hold up as examples why kids should not transition early in life.

But that's just crap as only a handful are transgender. Some are gay, but many just kids having fun and enjoying and exploring life. The child psychologists, as some have been doing for a decade or so, should focus on those who do identify as transgender and let them transition the best way available to give them the best chances later in life.

That said as some in the medical community recognize this fact and help kids explore and even transition. But that's not so much my point here. It's about those past their teens and realize they need to transition. The rule to do it early as possible still applies because after 25 or so, it only reduces the effectiveness of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) and increases complications with your body and genes.

A transition is a fight with your own body, to redirect it from what is in your genes and life experience to something totally foreign. Some do well even after 30 but they're few and far between, and usually with some surgery to remedy small things, like the face or breasts. Most, however, don't do well enough to pass invisibly in society and face the reality of living with being somewhat to marginally passable, or get significant to extensive surgeries (face and body).

The reality, however, is that after each decade of age, the return on your investment in HRT is complicated by existing conditions and age, and after 50, there isn't much left to change by itself and surgeries are usually the answer if you want to be passable.

After 60, it's easy to find yourself in a physical and mental battle between your body and mind and HRT, and often neither wins, and the balance between them isn't pretty. You find you're fighting the effects and results of age where HRT doesn't work or will excerbate other problems or issues, like depression or body weight or size.

This happens when some decide to postpone their transition for personal or professional reasons, namely to preserve their family or career. Some of these change their mind but mostly wait for a pivotal moment in life, such as a death of a spouse, a divorce, or retirement, to begin their transition to find plans and reality don't match, and everything changes, usually for the worse with themselves or life, meaning family, friends, etc.

And how prey tell do I know this? From knowledge, from friends and others, or from experience? All of the above. And I'll leave it at that for now.