The Question

The often asked question of transwomen is one of several but really all are the same, "Do you have a vagina?", meaning to ask if you have had the surgery or when, or not, did you have the surgery. Either way, it's the most personal, and stupidest, question you can ask of any transwomen.

And if you notice the guys don't ask transmen the similar question, "Do you have a penis?", because of course that would be rude to ask any man about their penis, to many, and almost all gay men, their most prized possession. In reality very few transmen have a penis beyond and enlarged clitorius because the surgery is very invasive, very extensive and very expensive (over $50K).

And it's not a guarranteed solution. But that's not the point here. Only transwomen get the question asked by men, women rarely ask it. Within the transcommunity, however, it's the thing, and often cited as the final step in a transition that separates post-transition women from in-transition women.

It's often the defining difference of a woman, and often used by others as the indicator, of your seriousness to be a "real" woman since all women have and want a vagina (never mind transmen have them). It's a whole separate argument about sex and gender.

Anyway, that's also not the point here. Which is? Well, to post-op (trans)women, next time a man asks you about "the surgery", ask him, "So, when do you plan to have the surgery removing your brain from your dick?"

Yeah, if they get the point.