So Easy

It's so easy for women who had a successful transition in the 20's, didn't need cosmetic facial surgery, had a small frame and proportioned body where hormones worked quickly and well, didn't need much if any voice practice, and went through the whole transition and their sex reassignment surgery quickly.

I'm not saying life and events they experienced were easy, rare is the transition which doesn't have issues or problems wrapped around them and their transition. I'm saying they as a person and a woman they had it easy to go from their former self to a woman who passes effortlessly.

I'm saying it's so easy for them to criticize those who don't. Don't transition easily and need some to a significant effort including facial surgery to be at best passable most of the time. It's so easy for them to tell you that if you can't be like them then don't transition.

I'm saying it's so easy for them to look at you and then walk away afraid you'll embarrass them if someone discovers or realizes who they were and they'll be seen like you. It's easy to be hard and harsh. Many are and some aren't.

We judge ourself during and after our transition relative to two standards, one of being a woman and one of not being seen or identified as having been a transwoman or transgender. It's so easy to run away from the label faster than they run away from those who don't pass well if at all.

That's their fear. And why it's so easy being stealth and to bitch about and at those who can't be, be like them. And they never realize how much it hurts, deeply, and hated by others for just trying to be who you are but don't measure up to their standard.

It's that easy to be cruel. To turn your fear into hate and they dump it on someone else. Without remorse. So easy to do and so hard not to.