What's Not Understood

What's not understood and likely never will be understood by non-transpeople is that no one wants to be born to discover their body and their mind aren't in agreement about what sex and gender they are. No one wants to be transanything let alone transgender.

I've found the only way to get any non-transperson to understand is to ask them the question Jennifer Boylan asked Oprah when Jennifer was a guest on Oprah's show. Oprah couldn't understand why (trans)people felt the way the did to the extent they wanted surgery so the body matched the mind, so Jennifer said,

"What if you woke up (meaning she knew she was a girl) to discover you had a penis and testicles?"

Oprah's answer was the universal one, "I'd have surgery to change it."

And that's the point. It's not about being a label or some classification in some psychiatric diagnostic manual, it's about a human being, a women who has a genetic condition, being born male.

The contradiction isn't with transgender people, they already know who they are. It's with everyone else. Everone is ok with intersex people who want to correct the surgeries they had in the childhood when doctors decided their sex for them, and more often than not, wrong.

They're ok with women getting facial surgery, breast augmentation, labiaplasty, and other cosmetic surgeries without psychiatric consultation. They're ok with men getting facial surgery, even penile enlargement, and other surgeries, again without psychiatric consultation.

None of these surgeries are controlled or decided by psychiatrists. But they're not ok when someone wants to change their body from one sex to the other. It used to be called a disease, then it was a disorder and now it's a dysphoria, but all still controlled by psychiatrists.

If someone in transition wants facial feminization surgery, they need a letter from their therapist. If someone wants sex affirmation surgery (also called sex reassignement) they need letters from a therapist and a psychiatrist or physician asserting their transition and the completion of the period of their real life experience.

The truth is that's all bullshit, for the simple fact 98+% of people who transiton are happier post-transition and simply get on with life as they know they are. It's not about any mental condition, it's a simple physical (body) issue easily correctable with surgery.

And that's what not understood, and why non-transpeople want to control the discussion with labels, moralizing and hate. And yet, they don't take a moment to think of the old adage, "For there but the grace of God go I.", to realize understanding is the key.

But it's not what they want to do. Yet they want us to understand their view. Like we want to in the least, to hate ourselves as they hate us. We already hate ourself for our genes, and we know the solution is there just waiting, if only others understood and more so cared to help.

It really is that simple.